Hi!,
 
I am new to Chris's TS podcast, so I don't have much to comment regarding the podcast yet. HOWEVER....

I just finished reading Sex at Dawn and felt so validated by so many of Chris and Cacilda's findings. I was surprised to learn that sex is social, and amused their findings concluded to be human is to be promiscuous, unlike what many religions teach.

I was (actually still am) in a sexless marriage. My part in it was looking for a daddy figure and financial stability. His part in it is being raised VERY catholic, being sexually abused by camp counselor at a catholic camp, and coming home to learn sex is only for making, as my husband now puts it "more catholics". 

My journey in therapy has been incredible over the last 3 years. We are now in an open marriage - which I take advantage of, and he does not. It also bothers him that I have a relationship with another man, but he's the one that offered the open marriage, so that's for him to deal with. Callous? Maybe, but I also spent 18 years of a relationship without intimacy, connection, or fucking. 

I've now started a business that offers support to others living in sexless marriage and I am so excited to offer them my support, validation, and help them understand they are deserving of love.

It's a sad epidemic in the US and doesn't seem to be getting better. Although perhaps in some ways it is, but society still teaches us that we are looking for "the one". We need to teach them to find "the one that's right for now".

*V